Our choice of who to talk to about depression is not an easy one to make.
After all, not only is depression a very personal, and maybe even embarrassing subject, but it is also quite difficult to bring up in a conversation.
I mean, how would you feel if someone dropped this bomb on you?
A friend of mine once told me that, one day, he got a message from a friend of his.
In that message his friend described how he was cutting himself, forcing my friend to take immediate action.
Obviously, this is not the way to go about this problem.
The sad truth is that most people who suffer from depression don’t seek help.
Because of that, depression remains a relatively silent disorder that is largely misunderstood by most of the population.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way.
Talking about your problems can, in many cases, make them better.
In fact, talk therapy is shown to be very helpful in treating anxiety, for example.
Not only that, but loneliness is known as a contributing factor to depression.
For example, older people, who have less contact with others, are more likely to suffer from depression.
Talking to others about your condition is very helpful, but finding the right people to talk to can be quite difficult.
“Who Can I talk to About depression?”
One of my readers asked me this very question a while back.
At the time, I gave him a list of people who he should approach with his problem, but that list didn’t help him as much as it should have.
You see, depression affects our social interactions in many ways.
In most cases, people who suffer from depression don’t know how to reach out for help.
As it turns out, based on the person that you approach, there is a right way and a wrong way to turn to someone for help.
Ultimately, the criteria for approaching someone about your condition are:
- Understanding – They need to understand your condition for what it is, rather than confusing it with something else
- Willingness – They need to want to help, you can’t force anyone to listen to your problems
- Ability to Listen – Some people may attempt to take active part in trying to help you, something which will only prevent them from actually helping you. You need someone who listens more than he talks.
In that reader’s particular case, he approached someone who wasn’t as willing to help and it backfired on him.
That brings up the question: Who can you talk to?
The closest people to us, at least biologically, are our families.
In many cases, your family knows you best and cares about you the most.
Because of that, many cultures hold familial bonds in high regard, and for a good reason.
That, and your family members are the most likely ones to notice your condition firstLine You live with them!
This fact can make approaching them that much easier.
They are aware of your condition and are very likely to understand it for what it is.
Not only that, but they are more likely to be willing to listen to you, seeing as most families are pretty close.
The main problem here is whether or not they really are capable of listening to you.
When it comes to family members, many of them tend to think that they know best, but sometimes they really don’t.
As such, many of them tend to pile advice on you without really listening to you or thinking their words through.
Our friends are the people that we choose to spend our free time with.
Surprisingly enough, this definition is rather loose and general, making the word “friend” seem pretty cheap.
The fact is that friends can be quite unreliable at times, making them a wildcard in this specific case.
A friend of yours might enjoy hanging out with you, but that in no way means that they is willing to listen to your problems.
That isn’t something that you can hold against them, they didn’t sign up for this.
Your friends are likely to listen to your problems, but they are not as likely to understand them or to be willing to help with them.
As such, it would be best to inform and talk about depression to friends who show interest and care.
If they seem to dislike talking about it then you should abandon this topic of conversation immediately.
Destroying your friendship with them won’t do you any good.
On the other hand, a friend that is willing to talk to you can be a great help in improving your condition.
As I have said before, only 1 in 5 people seek professional help for their condition, which is a shame.
When discussing who to talk to about depression therapists are frequently mentioned and for a good reason.
Therapists are professionals that have years of experience dealing with cases that are very similar to your own.
Because of that, they are much less likely to come across as unhelpful or even hurtful, although the possibility is still there.
They are paid to listen to your problems and help you solve them and as such, they will listen to you and they will offer you their help, regardless of how difficult a person you might be.
In this case, there is no need to hold back and no specific approach that you should keep in mind.
All you have to do is to find the one therapist that clicks with you and have regular and frequent meetings with them.
Most people with depression can certainly benefit from professional help, so it would be a shame to disregard it due to some misconception.
4) Support groups
It is no secret that the group is commonly seen as more powerful and capable than the individual.
The truth is that humans are social creatures, and we can find great comfort and strength when we are in a group.
For the most part, gathering multiple individuals to help you by yourself can be very difficult and downright impractical at times.
Which is why signing up for a group is a much better alternative.
The idea behind support groups is understanding that there are others who share the same experience as you and use each other to get better.
This group environment is particularly effective and simple when compared to simply talking with your friends.
It is much easier to talk about depression in this setting, not to mention that the people who are present are unlikely to judge you.
Aside from that, there is a therapist or an instructor present at all times.
Because of that, this methods greatest strength is the combination of interpersonal as well as professional help.
5) Online forums
In this day and age forums are not as popular as they used to be.
Still, there are many thriving communities around the internet that deal with mental health.
That being said, there is a major drawback with online help.
The people who try to aid you suffer from depression themselves, which is both a good thing and a bad thing.
Good, because they are far more likely to understand what you are going through when compared to almost anyone else.
Bad, because spending more time with them than necessary can backfire horribly.
When you find yourself surrounded by other people like you, are they likely to inspire change in you?
What I mean is that most depressed people have the unfortunate tendency to wallow in their own despair, and unlike with support groups, there is no outside help to hold them back.
Because of that, many support forums turn out to be collective self-pity zone.
I don’t mean that in a derogatory way, either.
Many people on these forums only focus on getting what they have to say out of their system rather than getting better.
It is common in many depression-related interactions, but forums, unfortunately, provide the best platform for that such behavior.
Focusing on negative emotions and feelings can negatively affect your mental health.
That being said, as long as you don’t overdo it, forums can be a great medium for providing and receiving help and support.
Just do yourself a favor and be careful with how much of your problems you share.
These platforms can quickly turn into bottomless pits.
Don’t keep your condition to yourself if you can help it
There are at least a few people in this world who are willing and able to provide support and help you with depression.
Even if you don’t know them personally you can still benefit from their help quite a lot.
However, talking about depression is not likely to make it go away completely.
For that, you are going to need some extra help and to commit to getting better.
Improvement in your condition will require action.
I would recommend that you check out the Destroy Depression System.
In it, you will find exactly what you can start doing today in order to improve your condition so you should definitely check it out.
Before you do, ask yourself this – “Who can I talk to about my depression?”
Share your answers in the comment section below, I love hearing from you!
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